Comments on: Mother doesn’t spell “packhorse” http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/ If not, ask Gran Sun, 03 Aug 2014 21:04:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.1 By: Molly http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19940 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 08:33:32 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19940 Hopefully it will work *crosses fingers*. I think it’s really hard to strike a balance isn’t it? Thing is, we all work hard and – as my mum says – everyone has to pull their weight in a family for things to run smoothly! The worst thing is one person feeling taken for granted or put upon, because they’re doing more than anyone else. But I suppose that comes with being a parent and having a family! x

]]> By: Molly http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19938 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 08:31:47 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19938 Communication is REALLY important isn’t it?! And I know what you mean about it being OK until it isn’t any more. Problem is, I tend to find I’m fine and then one little thing will make me snap – like the butchers incident! It’s like the straw that broke the camel’s back and then my reaction is completely over the top. All goes back to the communication thing I guess! x

]]> By: Steph (@imcountingufoz) http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19936 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 08:02:25 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19936 I am packhorse, hear me neigh.

If I don’t get things done, ain’t nobody getting them done. My husband does earn 99% of the money that comes into this house, so I do feel it’s my job, but even when I task him with things he just doesn’t do them, forgets or somehow gets the wrong end of the stick.

For example, I asked him to book Tuesday off work this week so he could be there for his daughter on her last day of school. He booked the tuesday off in 2 weeks time instead, and said he thought that was when he finished school. WUT?

We are selling our flat in London at the mo, guess who is dealing with all that?

We are going on hols this weekend, guess who is packing for everyone?

We have just switched phone and internet providers, guess who sorted that?

If I don’t buy food, we starve. Even at the weekend it just wouldn’t occur to him. And I have to rein in the finances otherwise god alone knows what would happen.

It’s ok, until it isn’t anymore, then this packhorse gets frustrated and cross.

Like Mummy Barrow said, it is definitely all about communication, but we’re crap at that.

Neeeeeiiiggghhh *whinny*

]]> By: Mummy Barrow http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19934 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:38:09 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19934 Good for you.

It IS hard though. My husband is out of the house 14 hours and so I have to do it during the week. At the weekends he is shattered so has a lie in, but I cant relax when I know so much needs doing.

he doesnt like lists so I cant write down what needs doing and as men dont see things, I end up just doing it.

It is all about communication, isnt it? And I just havent found the right way of doing it.

Which is odd since I could talk for England.

Glad you have a solution that looks like it might work. And at least you got to have ice creams :-)

]]> By: Molly http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19933 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:13:53 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19933 I think I would be more willing to take on everything if we had that kind of set-up. But I work too, so I think it’s only fair it’s 50 / 50. In fact, over the next 6 weeks I’m the ONLY one working because he’s on school hols!

]]> By: Molly http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19932 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:12:40 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19932 MadDad sounds very efficient! x

]]> By: Molly http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19931 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:11:31 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19931 Only on a Wednesday. Noted for next week!

]]> By: Kate W http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19915 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 21:14:41 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19915 See, when it comes to the inner workings of our House, I take it all on – my Mum quite regularly berrates me for this, but I seem to have an old fashioned view…..he is the one that goes out to work and earns all the cash, so I feel the least I can do is wash the pants & cook the dinner!!! (he is most definitely in charge of the Finances though – we’d be in trouble if that was my job!!)
Doesn’t always go to plan mind you, & I am regularly to be found hastily washing a pair of pants in the sink & blasting them on full heat with a hairdryer or feeding the small children a slightly odd combination of things because it happens to be all we have left in the cupboard!!!
You will fall into a new routine that fits your new life soon enough……i say, for now, just tackle each day as it comes!!

]]> By: Helloitsgemma http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19911 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:42:43 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19911 Golly! The butchers closes at lunchtime. How inconvenient.

]]> By: TheMadHouse http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/mother-doesnt-spell-packhorse/#comment-19910 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:34:15 +0000 http://www.mothersalwaysright.com/?p=4733#comment-19910 This was something I learned really early in my relationship. I am pleased to say that MadDad does more than his fare share, in fact he does more than me. I just have to make sure I ASK him. He is a man he can not think that these things need doing, so I delegate it and after nearly 20 years he does stuff automatically without tell me he has done it. I remember he used to say “I have done so and so” almost like he as asking for a house point!

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