Comments on: Parents vs non-parents: it’s not a competition

By: helloitsgemma

helloitsgemma — Mon, 09 Sep 2013 19:25:09 +0000

See over sharers on Facebook do my head in.
I am a parent, I like to think I have a wide range of interests, however, those types that share it all… numbers of times up in the night, what the child ate for lunch or didn’t (and yes, I’ve seen all that), I’m afraid I ‘hide’ them, sometimes I go as far as to un-friend. I share photos of my son, I think photos are easier to skim past but I didn’t give updates on his potty training or milestones because I think it’s dull and I’m not that interested in someone else’s, so why would they be interested in mine. Clearly, I am the worst type of facebooker.

By: Narrowboat Wife

Narrowboat Wife — Sat, 07 Sep 2013 18:24:49 +0000

Interesting discussion. I think people should share what they like on Facebook and their ‘real’ friends will be interested. On a related topic, my friend is having trouble conceiving and seeing so many cute baby pics and pregnancy scans on Facebook has begun to upset her. But she didn’t complain, she’s just made a conscious decision not to go on Facebook so often!

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 04 Sep 2013 21:01:14 +0000

It’s such a shame when people try to out-do each other isn’t it? No matter what you do or where you are in your life, if you’ve had a bad day or you’re tired – or whatever – it still counts! One-upmanship is not an attractive trait, in any guise! Thanks for the lovely comment Charlie. xx

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 04 Sep 2013 21:00:04 +0000

This is why you are my friend. x

By: Ghislaine Forbes

Ghislaine Forbes — Tue, 03 Sep 2013 20:32:21 +0000

Freya doesn’t look ready for bed! Or is it the morning? Love ma x Loved sharing my bed with the little blighter whilst you were partying. x x

By: northernmum

northernmum — Tue, 03 Sep 2013 20:08:26 +0000

You have a kid?

I thought we were just drinking buddies x

By: Charlie O'Brien

Charlie O'Brien — Tue, 03 Sep 2013 11:59:06 +0000

Great blog Molly. And so true – some of my best friends are mummies and there’s so divide. I think it’s an individual thing though. I have other friends who constantly say ‘you have no
Idea what tiredness is till you have a child’ or another one ‘until you have a child you have no idea what busy means’. I find those kind of attitudes infuriating. And you’re right about Facebook – just in general a lot of ‘judging’ happens there. On our radio station website I’ve had hostile remarks from women about me not being a mum and I think – they have no idea if I’m planning on being a mum, trying to be a mum, can’t be a mum or maybe don’t want to be a mum. Think the rule is – just be happy in yourself and don’t listen to other people’s judgements x

By: WallyMummy

WallyMummy — Tue, 03 Sep 2013 11:51:50 +0000

Couldn’t agree more Me and my husband have a massive life outside of our one year old and its been like that from the start. We’re really lucky to have doting grandparents on our doorstep and because of that we actually manage to go out at least once a week, usually twice! Which is probably why we mange to switch off from our mummy/daddy roles so well… I actually tend to shy away from spending time with other parents, prefer to be the only one with a child and keep all conversation around adult subjects! lol xx

By: Molly

Molly — Mon, 02 Sep 2013 21:05:17 +0000

That’s a really good point. And I think the idea that people might be loathe to share certain parts of their life just because it doesn’t “fit” with a notion of who they were before is a shame. We all change, kids or not.

By: Molly

Molly — Mon, 02 Sep 2013 21:02:49 +0000

I’d never turn down advice from you Emma – you are wise. But I know what you mean, and I think it’s a shame. x