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Not giving up

May 20, 2012 by Molly 30 Comments

Usually on a Sunday I like to post a photo with no words, taking part in the Silent Sunday tradition.

But not this week.

Because yesterday I filmed a little video. And after all the posts I’ve written about my non-toddling toddler’s struggle with walking and hypermobility, the frustrations and questioning looks, the worry and negativity… I wanted to put something positive here.

This is what determination looks like, in the form of an almost 23 month old little girl with wonky feet and uber flexible limbs. This is what not giving up looks like.

And I’m so bloody proud.

Filed Under: Kids, MOTHERHOOD Tagged With: hypermobility, late walker, Parenting, toddler, walking

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Comments

  1. amanda says

    May 22, 2012 at 8:13 am

    Such an amazing video. Well done 🙂

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    • Molly says

      May 24, 2012 at 6:28 am

      Ah, thank you x

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  2. Middle-Aged Matron says

    May 21, 2012 at 6:17 pm

    We can all learn from her. She looks as though she’s nearly there. What a trooper!

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  3. Super Amazing Mum says

    May 21, 2012 at 5:39 am

    yay frog!!!! So lovely to see xx

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    • Molly says

      May 21, 2012 at 5:50 am

      Ah, thank you! x

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  4. Jen says

    May 20, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Molly, that made me sile and cry at the same time. Way to go F!

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    • Molly says

      May 21, 2012 at 5:49 am

      Thanks Jen – we’re a bit proud! x

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  5. Kelly says

    May 20, 2012 at 6:45 pm

    Yay Frog! Amazing! x

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    • Helen says

      May 20, 2012 at 7:12 pm

      She is a determined little star … and as the others said grass is difficult to walk on and lovely to fall on … she seemed to enjoy it though and that is all that matters at the moment lots of hugs to you all!!!

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      • Molly says

        May 21, 2012 at 5:51 am

        She’s desperate to walk – would be on her feet all the time if she could. x

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    • Molly says

      May 21, 2012 at 5:50 am

      She’s a bit pleased with herself! x

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  6. Actually Mummy... says

    May 20, 2012 at 6:38 pm

    Such a slavedriver Mummy!!! 😉
    She’s gorgeous, and it must be wonderful to see her up!

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    • Molly says

      May 21, 2012 at 5:50 am

      It really is. x

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  7. Margaret Weaver says

    May 20, 2012 at 5:37 pm

    She is doing great! and looks to be enjoying it. We are egging her on from up north! XX

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 6:00 pm

      Can’t wait for you to see it yourself in person in a few weeks! xxx

      Reply
  8. Aly says

    May 20, 2012 at 3:38 pm

    F obviously wasn’t listening to the doctors.One determined little girl you there x

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 5:59 pm

      I may change her middle name to Determined. Thanks Aly! x

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  9. jane @ northermum says

    May 20, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    She js hurtling along now x

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 5:59 pm

      Desperate to run before she can walk. Bless her.

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  10. helloitsgemma says

    May 20, 2012 at 2:14 pm

    she’s fab! really fab.
    warms the cockles of my stoney heart watching this.
    well done frog!

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 5:59 pm

      Blimey, I’m going to take that compliment and bottle it up! Thanks Gemma! x

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  11. Merry says

    May 20, 2012 at 1:34 pm

    Oh she is amazing Molly 🙂 she will crack t in no time now. Well done all of you.

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 1:58 pm

      Thank you Merry, she’s doing so well!

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  12. Emma @mummymummymum says

    May 20, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Wow! Well done Frog. What a little star. xxx

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  13. Emma says

    May 20, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    onwards and upwards, such a sight to see. I know what this means to you all. F is a little star. Fingers crossed there will be no stopping her now.

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 1:06 pm

      Ah, thank you Emma. It’s a big deal – as you know only too well yourself. x

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  14. Eliza_Do_Lots says

    May 20, 2012 at 12:35 pm

    What a super little mite – she’s a star

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 12:38 pm

      I agree – although I’m a little biased…

      Reply
  15. mymummylife says

    May 20, 2012 at 12:33 pm

    She is doing so well – it’s really hard for them to walk on grass, even if they’ve been walking a while. What a poppet.

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    • Molly says

      May 20, 2012 at 12:37 pm

      Thank you – the ground was really uneven, but the grass cushioned the falls. She’s very determined!

      Reply

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