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When I’m old

December 22, 2015 by Molly 3 Comments

We were laughing over a shared memory earlier. This time three years ago Frog was obsessed – and I mean obsessed – with Mariah Carey’s All I Want For Christmas. But she didn’t like listening to the whole song. Instead, she’d make us play the beginning bit over and over (and over) again. She loved the part where the drums kicked in and used to dance around like crazy for a few seconds, only to demand we play it from the beginning “agem agem!”.

Funny what you remember. She was two years old the Christmas of 2012, so there were probably a fair few tantrums that festive season too, but I don’t remember them. The thing that stands out three years on is her obsession with “Emily Rya Carey” as she called her, and her love of dancing.

Three years from now I’m sure I’ll remember these past few days with the same rose-tinted glasses. I’ll forget the awkward bedtime shenanigans (currently Frog wants to sleep in our bed all the time and Baby Girl is going through yet another phase of multiple wake-ups). Instead, I’ll remember the lovely couple of days out we’ve just had – and the rest that will undoubtedly follow.

When I’m old I’ll look back on today and smile with fondness at the fun I had with my big girl ice skating at The Eden Project. I’ll laugh at our terrible family singing in the car on the way home – and Frog’s tears of laughter as I taught her the rude version of Jingle Bells (jingle bells, jingle bells, jingle all the way…. Uncle Billy lost his willy on the M4 motorway etc).

I’ll remember dressing Baby Girl up as a wasp in the play area at The Eden Project, and grinning as she tottered around shouting her one word “AM! AM!” which can mean anything from “give that to me right now” to “I’m tired” to “look at me” to “milk, please”.

When I’m old and looking back at photos of myself I won’t notice the wobbly bits that plague me when I look in the mirror now. Instead, I’ll wonder at how young I looked, how happy my face was and how great I felt wearing the new coat that I got for a bargain £2.41 on eBay.

These are the bits I’ll remember when I’m old.

Merry Christmas everyone. What will you remember about today when you’re old?

 

Filed Under: ADVENTURE, Kids, MOTHERHOOD, PLAY Tagged With: Christmas, family, Kids, memories, motherhood, Parenting

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  1. Em says

    December 22, 2015 at 10:48 pm

    This year I’ll remember enlightening my little ones to the joys of Christmas Parodys and especially Uncle Billy losing his Willy on the motorway!!! & Mr Hankey the Christmas Poo! We’ve made some great memories at Eden too – there was snow and looks of awe and wonder from the 3 year old… till it got in his eye. 😀

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    • Molly says

      December 28, 2015 at 7:23 pm

      The Eden Project is LUSH at this time of year isn’t it?! Love that other people also do the parody thing. Merry Christmas!

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  2. helloitsgemma says

    December 22, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    It’s amazing how much you forget – best to collect the details here. It’s the good details that matter.
    Well done on the bargain.
    Happy Christmas to you and yours. X

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